from "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch

Randy Pausch on learning football as a kid:

"...And the other Jim Graham story I have is there was one practice where he just rode me all practice. You’re doing this wrong, you’re doing this wrong, go back and do it again, you owe me, you’re doing push-ups after practice. And when it was all over, one of the other assistant coaches came over and said, yeah, Coach Graham rode you pretty hard, didn’t he? I said, yeah. He said, that’s a good thing. He said, when you’re screwing up and nobody’s saying anything to you anymore, that means they gave up. And that’s a lesson that stuck with me my whole life. Is that when you see yourself doing
something badly and nobody’s bothering to tell you anymore, that’s a very bad place to be. Your critics are your ones telling you they still love you and care."

Sifu Nancy, part 2

On December 17th, Gabriel Sabloff & I were certified Sifus under Sifu Tei's Wing Chun association. We each received a spiffy pair of butterfly knives, a certificate, and embroidered sashes.

Yesterday, I was working with some of the kids on Leadership Training. Now, Rome wasn't built in a day, but we did explore the following:

1) The importance of speaking loudly and confidently when leading a class through a form.
2) The difference between saying something with uncertainty ("side kick???") and saying the same thing confidently ("side kick!").

Within ten or so minutes I could see most of the kids improving. It wasn't that the kids were no longer shy or uncertain, it was just that they understood the importance of acting and animating like leaders, and by acting with confidence they soon began to feel confidence.

Mini-mission accomplished.

Sifu Nancy

Sifu Nancy. Sifu Nancy Tei. Sifu Tei. I am practicing, trying to make it sound natural in my head, because in less than two weeks I won't be just Nancy anymore.

How strange.

Remember to be Grateful

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”

I saw this on a childhood friend’s Facebook and decided it was time to write another blog entry. This is one of those little nuggets of wisdom that is easy to say and very hard to follow. After all, how can a starving little boy be grateful for his hunger? I suppose you could say the hunger might motivate him to work for a better life… there’s also a number of religious arguments that can be made here… but you know what they say, if you want to lose all your friends, talk politics or religion.

However, because the subject of this blog is martial arts, I’ll take this quote and tell you what I thought of first when I read it. I thought of all the sit-ups I dole out to the kids, and how they groan when they have to do them. If only I could tell the kids to be glad that their parents are investing the time and money to enroll them in a quality extracurricular activity; that their parents (for the most part) see the value in all we teach – not just self-defense but compassion, discipline, focus, and perseverance…

I also thought of the adults whose excitement over a new technique often gives way to frustration over the effort required to learn it…

Maybe next time I’ll tell them: Remember to be grateful that you even have the opportunity to struggle.

Holiday in the Park 2009

The pictures say almost everything, though they miss Stirling, age 3, totally melting down and wailing out of fright on stage - he recovered nicely and finished the show without incident - as well as our epic walk with the kids all the way down Magnolia Boulevard.

After the show, one of the parents commented to me that his son "felt like he was part of something" - and I had to smile because I do, too.

Field Trip!

Our field trip to Hsi Lai Temple was a SUCCESS!

Pictures are up on our Facebook and we're working on getting them on the website. We had a group of 53 people. One of the students brought donuts in the morning for the earlybirds. Once at the Temple the kids munched on snacks (provided by yours truly) while we got organized. The kids asked plenty of questions on the tour and were extremely polite. To my immense surprise, the kids loved the vegan buffet. It's amazing what kids will eat if you give them a choice - raw carrots, jicama, tempura, miso soup...

The primary goal of the trip was to educate everyone about Chinese and Buddhist culture. The secondary goal was to help build and promote a sense of community and friendship among our students. Both were more than achieved.

I am now turning my attention to Friday's Demonstration at Holiday in the Park. It's a busy month, but I love it. :)

Some Schools Give Rewards for Nothing...

I frequently pass other martial arts schools by and see trophies stacked five high in the windows. (I suspect that most of these are bought from Trophy Depot merely for effect.) I also often see signs advertising specials such as this:

"$99 Introductory Program - Includes Trophy!"

I am confused. Are we now teaching children that they deserve knee-high, glistening trophies for doing nothing but coming to class as ordered to by their parents? Do parents really see these signs and get excited rather than realizing that a school such as this obviously can't teach the finer points of honor and respect if they give out trophies like candy?

On Monday, we gave one of our students, a ten year-old who has been at our school for two or three months, a coveted award pin. (The students pin their awards to their collars.) Why? Not for excellent ability or memorizing a form, though we sometimes give awards out for that too.

The student received the award because he was not feeling well, but he came to class regardless because he needed to practice for our upcoming demonstration event. He knew that there were other people counting on him, and that the right thing to do was to come to class.

The pins are fairly simple - his depicted the yin and yang - compared to the huge, gaudy trophies that most students at other schools receive... but if I were a parent I'd take a rarely given, well-deserved award over a meaningless showpiece any day.